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Wednesday, October 10, 2007 / 10:23 PM
older people Today was just one of the many instances where i am confronted with two old fogeys who seem to have the mentalities of toddlers. And that really sent me through the roof. You know how young children behave, they cry when they do not get what they want and sometimes pretend to cry by scrunching up their tiny faces so that you'll give in to their whims. Some fight over the most inane things, like if Classmate A used B's eraser because she couldn't find hers and B will just start castigating her and then the two break into a mini squabble. Sometimes when a kid is deprived of an opportunity to go on a ride or buy an ice cream they either throw tantrums or start giving you a "face". Well i thought that was quite common when they were children. I didn't know it spills over to middle age. Maybe its the kind of world we live in. Too much competition, too much stress and too much suspicions. We tend to over-suspect on every banal issue, like if the auntie washed her hands before preparing hor fun for you, or if the China-made garment you are wearing is fire-proof, lest you turn into a ball of fire at BBQ. Anyway, we have too much considerations ALL THE TIME. No one bothers to think SIMPLE. Or to just forgive and forget. And act like an adult instead of trying to superimpose ideas on others, when yours are OBVIOUSLY flawed. The two old fogeys happened to be related to me in a certain sort of way, but due to some reasons i shall not specify their identities. But subsequently, those who know me enough should be able to fathom who they are and even if you don't, good for you. On a fine fine evening, two old fogeys quarreled over some phone call Fogey A had made to B's relative. B is having some problem and well, the call pissed him off. It made things worse!, i quote. A didn't see what is the big deal over a phone call because she was concerned and she had wanted to know what was going on, but B had wanted to settle things by himself as he has the capacity to do so. So they squabbled, and B was furious and yelled at A to mind her own business because he does not need her "concern". After that i talked to A, and told her to perhaps step away from this issue, as B obviously wants to resolve his problems by himself. A doesn't see what is wrong with her action, and is indignant that B is so angry with her. See how adults behave over such a small matter? I thought it was silly and uncalled for, because what sort of influence would a damn call make to B's life? It was just a harmless act, and it was in the best interests of B. However, i felt that B was right to feel angry, because it seems like A is trying to pry into his business by asking others what had happened to him. It just doesn't feel good when someone seems to be so "busybody" and "kaypoh" when you just want to keep a low profile and do things your way. The thing i don't get is why are they always so hyped up about something that is so MINOR? It always has got to do with something really insignificant, like why didn't you put back the chairs properly? Why did you leave the fan on? Why didn't you ask for my permission? Why did you touch my things? Why didn't you tell me where you had gone to? Bollocks. And i get a daily dosage of them. It baffles me the way some adults think and work. Its as if their minds are in a vacuum and their egos are hung up high. They do not take you seriously, thinking that you wouldnt be able to inderstand their plight because you are "still young", "you will know it when you are married" and stuff like these. They do not bother to even consider your suggestions that may help to improve their attitudes and moods because they have eaten more salt than you have eaten rice (Chinese saying). Just preoccupied with their traditional thinking and pride, so much so that they will not condescend to listen to your views. So my stance would be to take a step backwards and watch the two "fight like dogs", quoting from a family member. After all, if two dogs don't see eye to eye with each other and always tries to bite the other's tail, there is nothing much we can do about it. Just watch them fight lah. After they are done barking at each other, they will take a rest and re-charge, and wait for the next matter that triggers off their barking mechanisms. It seems like they live to fight. And my heart always skips a beat and i feel the monstrosity of the fluttering of butterflies in my stomach whenever i hear elevated voices. But then, it is anal to be so disturbed by such silly distractions. They do nothing to help me remember more vocabulary, solve more Math problems or write excellent essays. I guess this is just life huh? There will always be the brainer and the no-brainer stuff. And if you so happen to fall for the no-brainers, pick yourself up, dust away the mediocrity and be jocose. You only get to live once, so make the full use of it man. And as i am brushing away the dirt from my clothes, it is time to dive back into my books. To fit into the middle echelons of my 1989 batch, the endless consultations, brain-frying and drooling at my desk is totally WORTH IT. This also goes out to all who have yet to add me on Facebook: ADD ME NOW! |
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